What if that part of you you’ve been trying to fight, fix, or heal doesn’t actually need fixing or healing?
What if instead of releasing icky feelings or negative thoughts, you draw them near & hold them dear with love and compassion?
I’m talking about what you might call “voices of sabotage” or “your lower self”
If you’ve done ANY personal development work, you may have learned to flex your mental muscles, choose positive thoughts, and—voila!—feel better
And while mindset tools can be helpful, you’ve probably noticed that despite your best efforts—affirmations, mindset work, breathwork, energy work—you STILL feel—
😫 Dread & anxiety before a medical test or work meeting…bc what if THIS time it’s bad news?
😰The gut punch when you let your kids down
🥶 The body freeze when you need to set a boundary with a family member
💔The heartbreak when your adult child moves out
No matter how much you try to coach or fix yourself, these thoughts and feelings come back, don’t they?
It’s like trying to bail water from a rowboat that’s sprung a leak
You have 3 options:
1️⃣ Fight: row like the dickens, pretending it's fine even though you’re sinking fast
2️⃣ Fix: Try to bail out the water and plug the leak while drifting away
3️⃣ Surrender & swim: Let the boat sink, swim to shore, even with wet clothes. It’s HARD. But you are strong, and you did it!
Here’s the good news—These are all right answers
You’re wired to fight, fix, or surrender—each is a healthy, human reaction
Surrender doesn’t mean quitting- it means drawing the painful parts near and giving them the TLC they deserve
Which then reveals your deeper truths, strengths, and gifts
And make no mistake — just like swimming to shore in your clothes, it’s challenging to surrender & swim in the hurt
Especially in a world that teaches that the discomfort means there is something wrong & it’s YOU that needs fixing
But the bravest & most self honoring thing you can do is hold the discomfort - which paradoxically resolves it
When you change how you hold these parts, it changes how you see the world too 😘
Sending you a big hug with whatever you’re facing today -- and reach out if you desire -- my heart and arms are wide open if you need any support!
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